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Learning Helps Us Grow as People & as Caregivers

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Dr. James D. Huysman

Caregiving / / May 16, 2018

Learning is a lifelong process; at least it is to me. I can’t imagine living in a static world without being able to adapt to the ever-changing circumstances of “life on life’s terms.”To me, the well-known adage “Nothing is certain but death and taxes” missed the mark. Change is certain; it is the touchstone of living a full and productive life.

Can you imagine being stuck in one place in time with your understanding set in stone? It is the fear of change that has always caused controversy and discord among the people in this world. 

It is also important to discern “order” from “control.” It’s good to have “quality controls,” but when control becomes a power one can wield at will, it can be very destructiveto growth.

“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” ― Albert Einstein

As a medical professional I was taught the value of staying connected with my colleagues to exchange ideas and learn from each other. As a man, I am grateful for the connection I have with friends and family. My life would not be complete without all of these.

Connection, Curiosity and Committing to Change

These 3 C’s are vital to maintaining a balance between our being and doing. 

  1. Don’t be afraid to connect with other caregivers through support groups – online or face-to-face. Connectedness keeps us human. 
  2. Stay curious – attend or listen to learning sessions, seminars, podcasts that will help you be a better caregiver. Developing outside interests is a motivator of learning. The point is to learn something new from which you can expand your horizons.
  3. COMMIT TO CHANGE – Is there something you might do differently to make your caregiving experience for yourself or your loved one better? New insights lead to new thinking that leads to different behavior and results.

I am certain that when we learn to apply self-care protocols using these 3 C’s, we will be actively learning more about ourselves. Self-awareness counters naivete, which can lead to transformation and finally understanding.

“It is not that I’m so smart. But I stay with the questions much longer.” ― Albert Einstein

I came across a fascinating article entitled “4 Reasons Why We Should Never Stop Learning” in Inc. Magazine recently. I highly recommend it! 

Categories: Caregiving
About The Author
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James D “Dr. Jamie” Huysman, PsyD, LCSW is well-known for his work fiercely advocating on behalf of family and professional caregivers. From running a national caregiver support foundation, contributing to the AARP Foundation/NASW’s collective “New Guidelines for Caregivers of Older Adults” and co-authoring “Take Your Oxygen First”, to his expert videos on Caregiver Connections for UHC TV, he is a champion of behavioral health and a patient-centered medical culture that is prepared to meet the needs of those they serve.  A popular speaker, he works as VP of Provider Relations and Government Affairs for WellMed Medical Management.

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